Women of a Certain Age

by Moji

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This song came to me (and came to be) at an important time in my life. On the one hand, the traditional frame of reference tells me that I have reached the age where I am on the downslope of my "peak desirability." And on the other hand, I feel that I have finally stepped into a place of understanding who I am as a woman. This gentle balance between internal and external realities skews toward the traditional side; my adult accomplishments have always been measured against the job-husband-kids trifecta and thus far I am 1 for 3. *Cue the sad music*

As the song crystallized in my mind, there came a moment when I realized how much the importance of being "chosen" and "successfully married" had been highlighted. From a young age the notion of desirability was tied to self-worth, so much so that it has been a difficult bond to untangle-- even now as a grown-up, (pretty) confident, and (generally) happy woman.

The song puts into focus my experience in trying to find my happy ending while feeling as though I have to hide or change parts of myself to fit someone else's idea of "perfection."

I really hope that this song will resonate with many other women who grapple(d) with the notion of being the "perfect woman" and what happens when that isn't enough to get you to your happy ending.

lyrics

WOMEN OF A CERTAIN AGE

I’m giving it the best I can to be good enough to find a man
They don’t recognize my beauty
They don’t really see my value
My mother said the world’s a cold and awful place,
but a pretty face makes the hardest heart grow softer
makes men want to talk a bit longer

So, I put on all my make up dress up cute
I put those high heels on
I won’t act like I’m critical
Won’t let them know I’m pretty smart

Why scare a good thing away
the older women say...

Have you got a plan?
What you gonna do to find a man?
Every little girl starts rosy but those petals start to wilt by 30
So I’m wondering what they think of me now I’m 33
Do I make them sad?
Sure I’ve got a lot to offer
but men have to come around to figure that out

So I put on all my make up dress up cute
I put my high heels on.
I don’t act like I’m critical--
don’t let them know I’m pretty smart
I’ve been around the block a couple times, but I’m not hurt-- I’m not.

"Why scare a good thing away?"
the older women say...
I should start thinking about kids

But who needs to think of them when they’re on my mind
telling me to pick ‘em up when I think I’d better keep them down.
And I can’t wait till I’m past the age
where I’m asked "Oh, darling has anything changed?"

'Til then I put on all my make up, keep it cute,
I’ve got those high heels on
I won’t act like I’m critical
Won’t let them know I’m hurt— I’m not.

So I’m doing everything I can
to change myself to find a man.

credits

released October 30, 2020
Lyrics: Moji Abiola
Music: Moji Abiola & Carey McGraw
Strings arranged by Carey McGraw
Strings Niamh Fahy
Additional Engineering assistance by String Press, Jas Nowicki and Max Lorenzen
Produced by Carey McGraw
Mixed by Danny Reisch
Mastered by Greg Calbi

Thanks to all involved!

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Moji Austin, Texas

Moji is a singer who composes ideas in a way that seeks to give sound to emotions. She is based in Austin, TX but is currently socially distancing in the D.C.-area.
@singmojising

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